When you lose someone you love, your life becomes strange

November 3, 2009 at 11:10 pm 2 comments

A while ago I shared with you the Desiderata, a poem that has always meant so much to me and reflects my views of a happier world that is waiting for me. It’s a rare poem in that it truly speaks to me and I feel a connection to it. Tonight, I heard another poem that struck a chord with me: For Grief, by John O’Donahue. It is the first time I’ve heard someone else’s words so accurately describe the grief I feel. I hope others find the same peace from the words that I have.

For Grief
By John O’Dohohue
Excerpt from “To Bless the Space Between Us: A Book of Invocations and Blessings”

When you lose someone you love,
Your life becomes strange,
The ground beneath you becomes fragile,
Your thoughts make your eyes unsure;
And some dead echo drags your voice down
Where words have no confidence
Your heart has grown heavy with loss;
And though this loss has wounded others too,
No one knows what has been taken from you
When the silence of absence deepens.

Flickers of guilt kindle regret
For all that was left unsaid or undone.

There are days when you wake up happy;
Again inside the fullness of life,
Until the moment breaks
And you are thrown back
Onto the black tide of loss.
Days when you have your heart back,
You are able to function well
Until in the middle of work or encounter,
Suddenly with no warning,
You are ambushed by grief.

It becomes hard to trust yourself.
All you can depend on now is that
Sorrow will remain faithful to itself.
More than you, it knows its way
And will find the right time
To pull and pull the rope of grief
Until that coiled hill of tears
Has reduced to its last drop.

Gradually, you will learn acquaintance
With the invisible form of your departed;
And when the work of grief is done,
The wound of loss will heal
And you will have learned
To wean your eyes
From that gap in the air
And be able to enter the hearth
In your soul where your loved one
Has awaited your return
All the time.

© John O’Donohue | www.johnodonohue.com

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  • 1. GAYNOR  |  April 11, 2012 at 6:52 am

    I LOST MY HUSBAND NEARLY 3 YEARS AGO.I AM 55 AND I DREAD ALL THE LONELY YEARS.I LOVED THIS POEM IT SUMS UP EVERYTHING

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  • 2. Mrs Elizabeth ANN Farrah -Atkin  |  September 25, 2012 at 7:08 am

    I lost Michael my husband and soul mate 5 months ago to kidney cancer. it was awful seeing him suffer, but the suffering did not last long. I love and miss him so much. I loved the poem I identified with it. I am a Christian, and so is Michael. I know he safe with our Lord!!!!!

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